Why there are so many intelligence and investigation agencies in Pakistan

Why in Pakistan we have so many investigation agencies and intelligence agencies? These include Police, FIA, NAB, CID, ISI, SIU, IB, CTD, Sp Br, ATF, MI, ISPR, FBR, JIT,... Our history tells us that with each new agency, there has been an increase in corruption and law-breaking. Instead of decreasing corruption, they continually cause of the increase in corruption due to the maze of complex inter-dependences and conflicting turfs, which no one knows how to resolve. The following tale from Aesop's fables indicates this contradiction. 

Why there is such a widespread epidemic of depression and psychosis in the world?

Why there is such a widespread epidemic of depression and psychosis in the world?
Too much change, happening too fast and robbing us of the familiar anchors in life; anchors in beliefs, anchors in thoughts, anchors in our habits, anchors in families, anchors in "Old Familiar Faces",  anchors in furniture and household items, anchors in the neighborhood.

I wrote this post based on my deep contemplations on Future Shock which is a 1970 book by the futurists Alvin Toffler,[1] which defines the term "future shock" as a certain psychological state of individuals and entire societies emanating from personal perceptions of "too much change in too short a period of time". The book has sold over 6 million copies and has been widely translated.

Modern man feels shocked from rapid changes. For example, when we go to our childhood neighborhood, we find nothing that is familiar; the corner shop which was there for decades is no more.  Our grandfather clock is now just a disposable digital clock, long gone. We don't even need a clock. Our corner hair-cutting shop is not there. This was a place where we had been going since childhood to get the neighborhood updates. Our neighborhood has been uprooted. Neither there are erstwhile neighbors nor the old homes which we frequented. Old houses have been uprooted, replaced by hideous lifeless structures. Our household items are all disposable even the furniture is disposable. There is no antique rocking chair that was used by our grandfather or his father. Our relationships are now disposable, our relatives are disposable, our parents and children are disposable, not to speak of our extended family members,. Our professions, our skills, and our jobs are all disposable...

How to help poor in supporting their marriage costs

I find several NGO initiatives that would like to help the poor in supporting the expenses of the marriages of their daughters. I appreciate their energy and enthusiasm, but feel that there initiative is misplaced and directed not at the cause by the symptom. At best collecting donations for marriage purposes and helping the poor in marrying off their daughters is at most a band-aid or a sani-plast solution. It is not a long term solution. The objective of a foundation or an NGO should be to create a culture where marriage costs are low. Why there is such a mad race to spend exorbitant amount on marriages. Our objective should be to try and make Halal (marriage) cost a fraction of haram (zina). This is also support by the traditions of our Holy Prophet. However, our society is going in the other direction where halal (marriage) costs are running into millions and haram (zina) costs are reducing and are in thousands or a few lacs. We need to create awareness, appreciation of low cost marriages. Need to identify and stimulate rich people who are willing to become role model for this purpose. Development of such a culture is a worthwhile objective and yield much longer term solution to this problem. 

What is meant by Aala Zarf اعلی ظرف

ظرف  =    Zarf means capacity to hold
As in a jug or a container. Magnanimity 

It denotes the capacity to hold when Allah gives some person His bounties and blessings. What is the capacity of that person to hold that bounty or blessing without spilling. Zarf is therefore the capacity to hold a blessing from Allah such as power, or wealth, or beauty, or status, or command on language, etc.... 

A person with Aala Zarf can hold the blessing with magnanimity without spilling. Example: A typical کم ظرف، نو دو لتیا will spill the wealth with ostentatious displays, cheap and horrendous show offs. On the other hand, an  اعلی ظرف will judiciously spend the wealth for his own betterment and for the betterment of the others...

When a کم ظرف gets too much power, he will spill it through humiliating  بے عزتی and disrespecting of others, he will lash out with his tongue and actions without probity, introspection and judgment. A good example of today is the way our information minister Fawad Chaudhry lashes out on his opponents or more importantly Chief Justice Saqib Nisar. The latter's humiliation of respectable Senior Surgeon and social worker Dr Saeed Akhtar who was humiliated without considering his contributions to the society. 

المسلم من سلم المسلمون بالسان و یدہ

A person with Aala Zarf has a capacity that keeps expanding as more bounties are received so that his power to give to others increases without any spillage. This elasticity of the container is the measure of the ظرف

Can a Child Learn a Foreign Language without obtaining full competency in First language

بچے کی زہنی نشو نما و خود اعتمادی کا گلا گھوٹنا ہو تو اس کو "پہلی زبان" پر دسترس ہونے سے قبل انگریزی زبان کے جبر میں قید کر دیں

I got this comment on the above FB post: 

Actually kids can learn multiple languages early in life a lot easier than later. But the downside is often that they take longer to speak. Girls tend to do better than boys. I learned to speak two and understand a third language all before 3 years of age:

The advantage of parents knowing multiple languages and sharing them with children will ONLY accrue once the child has obtained "full" competency in the "first" language(s) in which parents, grand parents, uncles, aunts, extended family, neighbors converse and the child finds himself immersed after his birth. By full competency I mean that the child can understand a joke, crack a joke, relate a hilarious (make believe) experience that will make family members or friends burst out with laughter. Once a child has this level of competency in the first language, then competency in any other language is a piece of cake. Without this level of competency in the first language, gaining full competency in any other language is wishful thinking.

پہلی زبان
First language is the language in which the child opens his eyes and hear his parents speaking. It is the language with which the child learns to interact with parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, neighbors and friends. Articulation of thoughts into words and sentences is a complex learning. Then development of verbal skills to express abstract and complex ideas and learning to crack jokes and appreciate humor are the most difficult skills. Once a child has reached this state, learning any other language is a piece of cake.

The friend (Omer Dossani) further clarified that:

Irfan, our servents spoke Bengali, grandparents spoke Katchi, mother and father spoke 40% Urdu and 60% English. So, I cannot relate to what you are saying but maybe you are correct. From the research done by TCF in Pakistan they strongly stand behind their commitment to stick to Urdu as the medium of instruction based on the research that shows that kids learn best in their native language and so far their students are doing well

Articulation of complex ideas requires complex linguistic skills. The added pressure of not having enough verbal skills in a foreign language, stultifies expression of complex ideas, destroying self confidence and impedes mental development. Once complex verbal skills are fully developed in the first language, the child gains confidence to tackle any other language. Eg Schools where speaking in English is must, and the child is being bullied, the child is afraid and hesitant in complaining because the teacher will scold him for speaking wrong English instead of patiently trying to understand child's grievance. The child's emotions get strangulated and destroys his self confidence.