Showing posts with label Metaphysics of LifeStyles. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Metaphysics of LifeStyles. Show all posts

Friday, September 29, 2023

Alif Laila Series of Ferozesons and my love for books

 مجھے سب ہے یاد زرا زرا-- تمہیں یاد ہو کہ نہ یاد ہو

کس کو یاد ہے ان 6 کتب کی قدر مشترک؟
ملکہ شہرزاد
حجام اور قزاق
چین کی شہزادی
گنجا لنگور
سندباد کے سات سفر
معروف موچی
1970 کی دہائی میں یہ کتب میری اسلام آباد میں "ملت لائبریری" کا حصہ تھیں جن میں بچوں کی فیروز سنز کی کتب کے علاوہ ابن صفی، این صفی، مظہر کلیم وغیرہ کی کتب تھیں
کل فیروز سنز نزد تین تلوار جانے کا اتفاق ہوا، تو یہ سیٹ خرید لیا--
کیا زبوں حالی کا شکار نظر آیا-- فیروز صاحب کے بچوں کی اگلی نسل کیلئے فکر فردا کا مقام
فیروز سنز کراچی کا پتہ:
تین تلوار سے دو تلوار کی طرف جاتے ہوئے الٹے ہاتھ پر شیل کے پیٹرول پمپ کے سامنے کھڑے ہوں تو سیدھے ہاتھ والے کونے کے سامنے کمرشل کے فرسٹ فلور پر


Tarzan and My Language Acquisition

ٹارزن کے جنگ اخبار میں روز شائع ہونے والے تصویری سلسلہ سے میں نے تقریباً 5-6 سال کی عمر میں اخبار پڑھنا شروع کیا-- یہ 1967-68 کا زمانہ تھا-- روز صبح امی، ابا یا بڑی بہنوں سے اصرار ہوتا تھا کہ وہ پڑھ کر سنائیں، اور شروع میں دو چار دفعہ ہر ایک نے سنایا-- چونکہ ہر کوئی اکثر اپنے کاموں میں مصروف ہوتا تھا، اور کہتا تھا بھئی خود پڑھ لو-- چنانچہ جھنجلا کر خود ہی پڑھنا شروع کر دیا-- اس کے بعد یہ چاروں فیروز سنز کی کتابیں IMSG سپر مارکیٹ اسلامآباد کی لائبریری سے لے کر پڑھیں-- بعد ازاں ٹارزن کی ان چار کتب کا پورا سیٹ خریدا اور بیسیوں دفعہ پڑھ ڈالا-- فیروز سنز کی ایک کتاب اسکول سے واپسی کے بعد کھانے کی میز پر شروع کرتے تھے اور وہ کوئی ایک ڈیڑھ گھنٹے کی مار ہوتی تھی--- ہماری imagination تخیل اور ایڈونچر کی آبیاری ان کتب سے شروع ہوئیں-- بعد ازاں اوریجنل بھی پڑھنے کا موقع ملا--
یہ چار کتب فیروزسنز واقع نزد تین تلوار شیل پٹرول پمپ سے خریدیں اس پیر کو خریدیں تھیں--

Ikram Hyder Naqshbandi Naatia Kalam in Different Languages

میرے دادا کے والد سید اکرام حیدر (1854 - 1942) کی غالباً 1920 کی دہائی کا لکھا ہوا نبی کریم صل اللہ علیہ وسلم کی شان میں کلام، مختلف زبانوں میں

بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم

بزبان عربی

للہ الحمد علی راسنا   ار سلت نبی

من نبی اقبل احکام شرقی غربی

کان امی لقد ا عالم و علم العجبی

قال واللہ لک؟ رحمت احمد ربی

سیدی مرشدی مولائے محمد عربی

مرحبا سرور عالم تو عجب خوش لقبی

Saturday, April 29, 2023

Preserving Old Handwritten Bound Manuscripts-Deewan-e-Baqa by Shah Abdul Ghafoor Manikpuri 1854-1930

This post describes how I am preserving the old handwritten poetic manuscripts written around 1880-1930. They had come to me in a bound volume as seen in the picture below. The binding was labeled Deewan-e-Baqa. Baqa being the poetic name, takhalus, of Shah Abdul Ghafoor Manikpuri. Baqa is used in several ghazal and poems in this volume. The experience of Archival of old manuscripts has taught me to become a "heritage detective". The detective is pouring over these old handwritten poetic manuscripts trying to decipher the old hand writing, to find the links and clues spread in these manuscripts, to identify the years when they were written, to identify different handwritings, to identify the links between the different types of cotent pages that were collected in this bound volume, to understand the history of how these pages got collected in this binding which was done some 30-40 years later, to understand the chain of transmittal and weave a credible story around the discovered artifacts. 

The next stage is the preservation in protector sheets of these old pages, sending them for scanning, typing and transcription followed by editing and proof reading. Then would come the stage of understanding of the contents, and connecting the contents with the social history of that time, and connecting them with the relevance of our times. This experience reminds me of how archeologists discover, date, investigate, link and try to understand the history of old times by connecting them with different related artificats of that time and the artifacts connected with that time and place. 

دیوان بقا از مولوی شاہ محمد عبدالغفور المانکپوری، ضلع پرتاب گڑہ

Tuesday, April 18, 2023

Rauf Momani and Great Memories of a Lively Lady

Rauf Momani and Great Memories of a Lively Lady

On 12th of April, 2023, Mrs Parveen Rauf Momani, my mother's brother's wife left this world to meet her creator. Inna lillah e wa inna ilaihi rajioon. May Allah give her the best of abodes in the hereafter. Aameen. 



Rauf Mamoo and Rauf Momani (1960)

How families Used to Spend Eid Days

How Eid Days were spent:

جب ہم 1980 میں کراچی آئے

تو عرفان بھائی کے ساتھ موٹر سائکل پر میں عید بقر عید سب سے ملنے جاتے- ابا جان امی ہم کو خاسص تاکید کے ساتھ بھیجتے- عرفان بھائی اپنے دوست سے موٹر سائکل ایک دن کے لئے لاتے- چلانا بھی نیا سیکھا تھا

ہم فیڈرل بی ایریا غفیرا آپا کے گھر سے شروع کرتے پھر خلیل بھائی ، ہارون خان، فریدا ،آپا پی ٹی آپا عثمان چچا ،بھیّن بھائی( لقمان چچا کے بیٹے)پاپوش میں بڑے عثمان چچا(اوصاف بھائی کے ماموں)یاسین چچا، بھائی ظہیر الحق،سعید حیدر، سیّد پھپا جمشید روڈ،بڑی خالہ جان بہادرآباد

پھر واپس گھر اس وقت کسی نے کہا تھا کہ بھائی لقمان اور آپا حسنہ آئیں نہ آئیں لوگ ان سے ملنے جاتے تھے کیونکہ وہ بڑے تھے مگر اب انکےبچے دس دفعہ آئیں تو کوئی ایک دفعہ انکے گھر جائے گا اور مجھے یہ بات ہمیشہ یاد رہتی ہے-

اسی لئے جب میں مکہ سے آتی تھی تو رینٹ کار سے کر ایک دن کے لیے لے کر سب سے ملنے جاتی - زہیرا آپا کے ساتھ- لانڈھی سے ناظم آباد تک- ملیر بھی- کیونکہ ہم امی کے ساتھ بھی جاتے تھے

Discovery and Rememberances of a 1951 Journey via Ship from Karachi to London onwards to Brazil

1991-11-09.  This photo is just the start of the journey to Brazil whose vivid description and experiences are captured in the following letter by Good Beti to Nice Beti

Tuesday, March 14, 2023

Fun of Aurengzeb's Piety and Inferiority Complex

"اورنگ زیب نے کوئی نماز اور کوئی بھائی نہیں چھوڑا" یوسفی صاحب مزاح نگار تھے، کوئی تاریخ دان نہیں تھے- ان کے اِس "مزاح" کو پڑھے لکھے عقلمند  اپنی "تاریخ دانی" کی معراج سمجھتے ہیں اور اپنی غلامانہ زہنیت اور احساس کمتری کا شکار ہونے کا اظہار کرتے ہیں! 
اُس زمانے میں دنیا کے کسی ایسے بادشاہ کا نام بتائیے جس نے 20-30 سال حکومت کی ہو اور اپنے بھائی یا قریبی عزیز کو نہ قتل کیا ہو- بادشاہت کی تاریخ کے ہزاروں سال میں محلاتی سازشوں میں succession اور گدی قائم رکھنے کا طریقہ اکثر سازشی قتل ہی ہوتا تھا- برطانیہ، اسپین، فرانس، ولندیزی، چین، جاپان، رومن، ایرانی ترکی کی بادشاہتوں کی تاریخ دیکھ لیں- سعودی عرب کی آج کی بادشاہت دیکھ لیں-
الیکشنز کے زریعے حکومت کی تبدیلی پچھلے دو سو سال سے کم کی کہانی ہے- تاریخ کا مطالعہ کبھی آج کل کی عینک لگا کر نہیں کیا جاتا- جس زمانے کو دیکھا جاتا ہے اس کو اس ہی زمانے کے اطوار و روایات کی نظر میں دیکھا جاتا ہے- آج کل کی sensibilities اور prejudices کے تناظر میں نہیں دیکھا جاتا- 
پاکستان میں "تبدیلی" آج بھی محلاتی سازشوں سے آتی ہے قائداعظم کی ایمبولینس اور لیاقت علیخان کی گولی سے لیکر آج وقار سیٹھ تک کتنے قتل ہونے ہیں اور کتنے ٹرمنیٹ ہوئے ہیں- ع خ کا کل کا واویلہ دیکھ لیں-
اسلامی تاریخ اور دنیا کی تاریخ سے نا بلد لوگوں کیلئے:
جنگ بدر کے قیدیوں کے ساتھ سلوک پر قرآن کی آیات پڑھی ہیں؟ دشمن کو کیوں قتل کیا جاتا تھا؟
1857 کے غدر کے بعد انگریزوں نے کتنے دشمنوں کو پھانسی دی اور کتنوں کو توپوں سے باندھ کر گولوں سے اڑایا تھا-
"مہزب" امریکیوں نے ریڈ انڈینز، ویتنام، عراق، افغانستان میں دشمنوں کا کیا حشر کیا

Tuesday, August 9, 2022

Experience with Google Drive and Dropbox. Why you should junk all of them

I had several terabytes of data in several external drives, now.  This data relates to my research, my research papers, research data, students' reports and data, their thesis and other proposals, analysis, and surveys that I have conducted during my consultancy assignments and other assignments. These contain my personal insights and conclusions about various issues. It is invaluable primary data for my autobiographical notes in my blogpost Learning and Life. Some relate to data from my 5 years at IBA, some data is about my 12 years at KIET, some data is about my 8 years at IoBM, and some data is about my 6 years of ePatterns company, some data is about my experience and operations of L2L. There are my memos, notes, pics, and other reports. There are also my family photos of the last 30 years, over 5000 family documents and letters; there are scans and files containing their transcription. These documents date over a hundred years to mid 19th century. 

Around four years ago I decided to put this on the cloud. First, I purchased DropBox and spent hundreds of hours uploading the data from my home computer hard disk around 500GB and another 500GB external drive. Later I found out that it was not a backup but it was a synchronous backup. That is, it instantaneously brought the repository to the same status as my hard disk. Little did I know that when my drive failed, or when I moved the data to another external drive, it will also wipe out my data from the drive. That was enough of a shock to me. It should have warned me that it was wiping out hundreds of my hours of loading time. OK, that was my mistake that I did not carefully review the features and understood the fine print. But, nevertheless it helped me to understand how the cloud appears to individual users

And I said goodbye to DropBox and moved to Google Drive. This time my idea was that I would get around 2TB of space, and I will move all my data from 4 external drives as well as my computer. I thought that once the data is there I could flexibly organize the data, remove the duplicates, order the files according to creation dates/last update dates, and will rearrange the overlapping data that I have backed up over the last decade. 


On Google Drive, it again took me several hundreds of hours of watching the slow upload to the cloud. As it was my personal data, I did not think that I would do it from a high-speed connection at my office. I thought I would be organizing the information at night while putting the upload on during the night. Little did I know that one has to watch the uploads continuously. Otherwise, it would simply give an error and exit. You will have to start once again from zero. There is no way to correct the error, and resume from where it stopped. This was exasperating. I thought OK, this is a one-time effort. Later I would be able to work easily from anywhere. 

Little did I know that eventually when I had uploaded all my data, it had totally hidden the creation date of my files as they existed on my hard drives. The dates visible were only the upload dates. This was impossible for me to organize. The dates were crucial for my data organization process. It told me where to put it and how to organize it. For example, I have pics from my mobiles, cameras, and from other mobiles of my family members. How do organize them if they all have the same upload date? 

The other problem was searching for particular information. It was again impossible. The search is designed by Google for what it wants to show you. It is not designed for you to organize the data into categories, and folders hierarchically and chronologically. Google doesn't want you to organize your information your way. It wants to organize the information as it deems fit. It was impossible to copy a large number of files from one folder to another. It was painfully slow and also very inconvenient to move around. The view simply would refresh to the top, forcing you to scroll down to where you were working. It is impossible to work in which Drive folders if there are a couple of hundred or more files in your folders and you want to merge, organize, collate, move, copy, or remove multiple copies. Work that you can complete and do in a few hours on your hard drive will take you forever on google drive. 

Getting the data downloaded from Google cloud was an experience that taught me that google is saying, hay! guy you don't own the data. I own the data. I will tell you how you can download it. It has made the process so difficult that I would rather do the reorganization again from my external drives rather than download the data from Google. 

I have come to the conclusion that it is better to use an open source repository of the type used by museums and libraries that are designed to keep the data for a long long time. You can't rely on these for-profit, fly-by-night operations that can change the algorithm at any time, and remove permissions from your data assets as and when they want. They may be good for a few years for storing information through high-speed networks. But, they are not for the data that you own.  Irrespective of what they claim, they only have to make it tediously slow certain features to make you wrench your hair in distress. They simply tell you who is the boss. This is the same way the data that you store on google Blogspot and Facebook is not yours. You are not entitled to access your data and tweak it the way you want it to be shown. Yes, you can do it if you have expensive programmers. But, they make sure that you can't use this option because they keep on changing the APIs and their permissions. There are always a step ahead of you. 

Don't believe what they say. It is colonization of your personal space. 

Cloud Security – Who Owns The Data?
https://www.bbconsult.co.uk/blog/cloud-security-who-owns-the-data

Who Owns Your Data?
https://medium.com/nerd-for-tech/why-owns-your-data-5f1cdadff84

Saturday, July 30, 2022

Behind frigidity there once was a clingy child? When a Child Becomes an Adult

The child has now grown up, isn't it? The grown-up is now Aaqil and Baligh, and responsible for his/her behaviors. An adult must be accountable for his/her actions. Stop blaming your parents or environment for your actions. This Freudian psychology thought is against Islamic teachings. Freud does not believe in human will or predestination.

Some DMRs developed during childhood gets stuck in our subconscious which affects our behavior and mental capacities. Often we are not trained in our modern education to process these DMRs so even an adult cannot do much about them. Extended families and elders used to provide a crying shoulder to release our emotional energy, the educated parents and nuclear families do not offer such a facility to the child. When this child grows up s/he has forgotten the source of his fears, apprehensions, and internal conflicts, which bury at the back of his mind ... neither s/he has any training regarding how to process these memories effectively. Jung (an opponent of Freud) also acknowledges the role of religion for its ability to better process the stuff in our subconscious.

Indeed individual is responsible for his change but how will s/he know that its coming from the past when we don't even acknowledge it? Also, Freud is just one psychologist among so many others who believe in 'change' and 'will' and 'hope' . PSYCHOTHERAPY is all about 'how to help humans so s/he can change. When discussing cause & effect, we don't discuss the 'cause' to BLAME but only to understand. Thanks, Sir for your input but remember, Jung is talking about that in a therapeutic setting or at least in therapy

The extreme form of blaming the environment, and not taking responsibility of actions is the tendency to even ban death sentences

Quest for Truth: Need for External vs Internal Persuasion

A post on FB quoting Joseph Royce:
"If you cannot convince me that there is some kind of knowable ultimate reality, or if you cannot convince me that there are certain absolute values by which I can live my life, I shall commit psychological suicide. That is, either convince me that there is “one truth” or one right way of doing things, or I shall conclude that everything is meaningless and I will not try any more."

My reply:
Why should someone else convince you of the "truth"! It is your life, you need to live it, you need to search for your meaning of your life! It is a very personal question! Whether you commit a psychological suicide, or a physical suicide, or live like a zombie, or live a life of tyrant or live a life of saint or die a martyr for a false cause or die  for true cause are your own personal decisions! What you make of your life, or do not make anything of your life are your individual and personal decisions. You are responsible for your actions and the consequences of your actions. And you need to be accountable.



May be trying to answer this question is a quest for which you feel this restlessness and may be that is the purpose of your life or the purpose of human existence. May be the greater the intellect, greater the turmoil, greater the conflicts, and greater the difficulty for greater clarity! May be solving this problem, answeing this question, deciphering this restlessness,  satisfying your urge to find the answer is why you are here. Welcome to the thinkers club!

Thursday, July 28, 2022

Naatia Kalam and Family Culture of Recitations- Anwar Fatima Diary

My dadi Anwar Fatima's diary/copy that she used from 1930s till 1960s. It contains naatiya kalam that used to be recited in mehfil e milad. Besides that it also contains poetic verses of several other relatives. Such "Mehafil" gave elders and children an appreciation of poetry and also a love for poetry. I remember being a participant in two such "Mehafil" in 1967 held at Luqman Hyder's residence in North Nazimabad Karachi. I was around 5-6 years of age, then, and I recited verses from Mussadas e Hali. Around 7-8 verses starting from 
وہ نبیوں میں رحمت لقب پانے والا....
I was specially prepared for this recital and was given a white pajama and kurta for the occasion. I had earlier prepared these verses for a recital in my nursery class at Viqar-un-Nisa School in Rawalpindi. I had spent less than a few months in nursery class there in around 1966. I would go with my sisters from Chaklala Wavell Lines to the school in a Tanga (Horse Driven Carriage). I recited the verses from Musadas e Hali in the school auditorium, where I distinctly remember seeing Khushbakht Aalia (later on Khusbakht Shujaat) who recited and spoke [was it this or some other event].  My shirt got tucked in to my pajama and my sisters or their friends made fun of it. This I did not like and still remember the embarrassment to this day. 

My grandmother encouraged and prepared me for this recital. She used to call me with her gentle and old voice as "Madineh ki Fiza". I thought that it was after this recitation that she started calling me with this phrase. However, I recently discovered a few letters from her to my parents of around 1964-65  where she had used this phrase for me. 

Saturday, April 23, 2022

Sustainability vs Digital Transformation or Digital Disruption or Digital Slavery: Growth of Digital Disempowerment

Digital transformation and sustainability challenges:
Internet and convergence of technologies have created a digital takeover of all aspects of life to an extent that digital intrusion is now monitoring our most intimate details, which has produced a digital monopoly of nearly all services and has recently created the ultimate buzzword "digital disruption" which is actually a fuzz word.

There can be no sustainability without diversity. Diversity requires adherence to the principle of live-and-let-live. Digital disruption assumes the destruction of everything which is nondigital. However, Inclusive growth means allowing small competitors to survive and grow. Which is now an impossibility due to the juggernaut unleashed by digital disruption. Digital takeover of all aspects of life is now a reality. There is no sustainability of human culture, only the perpetuation of digital virtual existence. 



Why this epidemic of depression and psychosis - Death of Permanence

Why there is such a widespread epidemic of depression and psychosis in the world? 
Too much change, happening too fast and robbing us of the familiar anchors in life; anchors in beliefs, anchors in thoughts, anchors in our habits, anchors in families, anchors in "Old Familiar Faces",  anchors in furniture and household items, anchors in the neighborhood. 

Tuesday, February 22, 2022

Why School Priorities Have Changed

 How short-term observations can lead to faulty solutions? What was important 50 years ago is not important today. See the following post



What was important 50 years ago is not important today. 50 years ago depression was not among the top 10 or even top 20 illnesses leading to death, today it is number one killer disease. 50 years ago memorizing spellings, formulas and multiplication tables was essential for all educated people, today their memorization is no longer important because of Google search, smart phones and auto spell checkers. 50 years ago self esteem, self care, self finances were taught by father mother, uncles, aunts and extended families and neighborhood friends, today we have deliberately cutoff the support environment of extended family and friends, and now want to shift the responsibility to schools.
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We are creating new problems because of our selfish pursuits and then want government and school systems to solve these problems.
Why the pendulum shifted in last 50 years. Regarding memorization of formulas, the shift is understandable because of availability of formula and spelling on a single click of smart phone has obviated the need. The increase in depression is owed to what Alvin Toffler called future shock.
For a more detailed understanding of why there is Prevalence of depression over the last 50 years see my other post

Tuesday, August 31, 2021

Is Marriage an Imprisonment? Feminism, Relationships and Freedom from Responsibilities

کیا شادی قید بامشقت ہے؟ 
 This post is triggered by FB posts which mentioned marriage as imprisonment with hard labor:
"قید بامشقت"
This post captures the intent of feminist and modern thought which is now focused so much on freedom that it considers "responsibilities" as imprisonment (قید).

Tuesday, August 24, 2021

Phuppi Tufail Fatima Care for Family and Parents

My phuppi Tufail Fatima breathed her last yesterday August 23, 2021. She was 103 years of age. Her birth-year (called ism-tareekh  اسم  تاریخ) is 1918 as given in the manuscript penned by her grandfather (my grandfather's father) Syed Ikram Hyder. Her Tareekhi Names derived from the birth year were Ghani Behr e Rehmat (غنی بحر رحمت), Khabeer Zahir( خبیر ظاہر), Khursheed Nusrat Panah ( خورشید نصرت پناہ). She was an exemplary woman who maintained her regimented lifestyle throughout her life till old age restricted her to bed a few years ago. Strict timings for meals, tea, prayers, and housekeeping. She did her BA in 1938 and BT in 1939 from Aligarh University. She taught in the Mauripur base school in 1950-60s. Her care for immediate family and extended family members was exemplary. All through the 1970s she first cared for her mother-in-law during her old age deathbed for around five years, and then her mother during her old age deathbed. Great lady who was worrying even during her last years about taking care of guests when she had forgotten who was who and could barely talk and had lost sense of time, era, and people around. I remember a year or so before when I visited her, she had forgotten who I was but sensed that I am a visitor and wanted to know whether I had had some refreshment. Something she did with all around. 
Inna lillah e wa inna ilaihi rajioon 

 [Ikram Hyder was a forest officer in late 19th century and early 20th century and belonged to the Naqshbandi Sufistic tradition. This excerpt is from his documents/papers collection. The page from which this pic is cropped also contains اسم تاریخ of my uncles. The date of this writing is 1925-30, which is estimated from the ism-e-tareekh of Tufail's brother, born in 1925, and written on the same page using the same pen]. 

Sunday, July 18, 2021

Self awareness and layers of intentions

Self-awareness is the process of discovering deeper levels of intentions. Whenever we are disturbed and feel an urge to respond or act on a stimulus we need to introspect about what is it that has disturbed me and is giving me this urge to respond. 
Our response should be based on حسن ظن and not being judgmental because the facts may be wrong or our perspective may be faulty. This is highlighted by the three examples given in the Pic. 

But, more importantly our holier-than-thou feeling that produces this urge to respond may itself have deeper issues that require self awareness and self introspection. 

We need to first identify the intention behind any action (or its contemplation). The first reason that comes to our mind represents the first level of intention. Below the first level intention is another level of intention. Below the second level of our intention there may be another level of intention. We need to peel off these succesive layers of intentions before we discover the core intention that is giving rise to upper levels of intentions. This deepest core intention is most often a fundamental, most disturbing, weakness in us, that we are hiding with our upper level (lesser disturbing) intentions.

This is how I analyze each event that disturbs me
Q: I think there is a layer below the intentions which give meaning to reality, or forming a perception, to which we intend to responding ...

Thursday, July 15, 2021

Elegance, Love and Principles in Roman Holiday

One of the most memorable endings of a movie.
I have thought a lot about the emotions and feelings generated by this movie since my early school days. 

First saw this movie in 1971-72 on PTV. Then in 1983-84 on projector at American Center audi (adjacent to Marriott) during classic films festival. Then in 1988 on videocassette checked out from movie collection at UGL in UT Austin, and later at KBVO channel 42. Then a couple of times in early 1990s rented from Blockbuster Videos in Austin. Then bought the videocassette in late 1990s and a couple of times. And watched it several times with each of my children during 2000s. And of course with CDs and now online at least once every other year.
What an experience and what memorable feelings. They don't make movies like this anymore. The delicacy and refinement of the subject, emotions and an everlasting experience. 

Happiness and Forgive and Forget Rule

Forgive and forget rule for happiness! 
The question to ask is whether you want to be happy or not!
اے شمع تیری عمر طبیعی ہے ایک رات 
ہنس کر گزار یا اسے رو کر گزار دے
 
Holding a grudge and protecting it is like carrying stale foul smelling tomatoes for long periods and not throwing them away despite their stench.

وہ اچھا سلوک جو آپ نے دوسروں کے ساتھ کیا اس کا بھولنا اس    حکمت میں پوشیدہ ہے: "نیکی کر دریا میں ڈال"  اور "احسانمند کے شر سے ڈرو"


لوگوں کا رویہ ہمارے رویہ کا پرتو اور عکس ہوتا ہے
اگر آپ کسی کا رویہ اپنے ساتھ تبدیل کرنا چاہتے ہیں تو سب سے پہلے اپنا رویہ ان کے ساتھ تبدیل کریں!

Covey's 1st Habit "Being Proactive"

نیکی اور بدی برابر نہیں ہوتے- نیکی کا بدلہ نیکی ہے- بدی کا بدلہ بدی ہے- کان کا بدلہ کان ہے اور ناک کا بدلہ ناک ہے- البتہ معاف کرنا زیادہ افضل ہے اور معاف کرنے کے بعد بدی کا بدلہ نیکی سے دینا سب سے زیادہ افضل ہے-